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Listening poem

November 12th, 2014

Listening poem

When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I ask is that you listen.

Don’t talk or do-just hear me.

Advice is cheap; 20 cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper.

And I can do for myself; I am not helpless.

Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.

When you do something for me that I need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy.

And when that’s clear, the answers are obvious and I don’t need advice.

So please listen, and just hear me. And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn-and I will listen to you.

 

 

ANON

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